Well my love,
I got 3 letters today and I was pretty thrilled-to say the least. I sure am glad that you got a job-Guess what I got the job at Peaches. Only thing is I'm making 2.75 /hr. while you're making 2.90. Boy o boy-I found out yesterday (fri) and I start work tomorrow at 5:00 pm (we don't go to church at night around here).
The question of the day is...w0uld you like to marry me in March 1979 around the 15th?? If so-let me know!! In talking with my family they seem to think it would be easier for everybody if we did it then. I, myself, heaven;t decided yet if we should, but I must admit it does sound good. Please talk it over and pray about it with your parents. Understand that not only is my tuition paid for for the next 2 1/2 years-but out apt and utilities as well. Really all we'll need to buy is food and other necessities. Financially there is no problem-which I thought there was at first. Of course, it would mean that we would have to get this wedding together fast, but it can be done-and all my family will be able to make it. We'll talk more about it tonight-
I saw Kathy yesterday. It was an interesting experience. We had dinner together because that was the only time and place that we could talk alone. There was much to talk about and she understands the situation now. That is important to me. We parted friends-close friends as we will always be.
But I am still going to marry you-maybe sooner than expected. I love you so much, Tricia, and miss you terribly.
I'll write more later.
I love you forever
Scott
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Friday, July 15, 2011
Dec. 7th, 1978
Dearest Tricia,
Hey Love! How are you today? It sure is good hearing from you every day. I sure look forward to you letters - poems etc. As for changing the colour of the wedding to "sand" - it looks to me from looking at the picture like sand coloured tuxes. Personaly- I get enough sand on the beach, but I'll leave it up to you and your mother. I'll be in white anyway.
I'm really surprised that you are 140 lbs. That's skinny! I really don't want my woman to be as skinny as me-there's nothing to grab or hug. I guess I could stand you at 140 but absolutely no less than that. And start eating!!!
I agree pretty much with what you said in your letter about God causing us to grow more in Him while apart. I had talked about that in previous letters. I know I am growing and am glad to hear that you are too.
Speaking of job-I took my lie detector test today. I was so nervous that I'm sure all my answers registered lies. It's kind of hard to be calm when you've got a belt around your chest, a pressure band on your arm and two little bands for 2 fingers. He got me all wired up.
I should hear from Peaches tomorrow whether or not I'm in-I shouldn't be over-confident, but I think I'm pretty well in. He seemed to be impressed with my musical qualifications-at least somebody is. Anyway I'll let you know tomorrow for sure.
Dad and I worked on the Cougar today. We changed the oil and greased it and other odds and ends. It runs great except for the brakes. I think I will have to replace them. It's long overdue anybody.
It looks like I am going to keep this car for awhile. With the divorce and everything Dad feels it would be best to wait until it's over or at least in order. We also just bought 2 cars and he thinks we should wait on a 3rd one especially if its going to be a major investment like 4,000 or more.
I understand and respect both arguments and will lay lack on looking for a van until later. It will give me an opportunity to save more money. Everybody says that we'll need it. I'm not worried, though. I'm too excited to be worried.
I talked to Mrs Hancox today and she said that the offer still stands for the room. She also said that it wouldn't cost you anything. She said you could pay her back by singing in her daughters wedding or something.
There are many other questions, pros and cons, I know. I haven't yet decided what should be best thought I want you with me so much. But sometimes we have to give up our wants if God asks us to. We've got to decide what He wants and stand by that whether it makes us happy or sad. We should be happy in any case knowing that we're to marry in a few months. (I like the word "few"-it sounds shorter).
Well, love there's more to say, but I must get to dreaming about you-
I love you so much
Scott
maranatha!
Hey Love! How are you today? It sure is good hearing from you every day. I sure look forward to you letters - poems etc. As for changing the colour of the wedding to "sand" - it looks to me from looking at the picture like sand coloured tuxes. Personaly- I get enough sand on the beach, but I'll leave it up to you and your mother. I'll be in white anyway.
I'm really surprised that you are 140 lbs. That's skinny! I really don't want my woman to be as skinny as me-there's nothing to grab or hug. I guess I could stand you at 140 but absolutely no less than that. And start eating!!!
I agree pretty much with what you said in your letter about God causing us to grow more in Him while apart. I had talked about that in previous letters. I know I am growing and am glad to hear that you are too.
Speaking of job-I took my lie detector test today. I was so nervous that I'm sure all my answers registered lies. It's kind of hard to be calm when you've got a belt around your chest, a pressure band on your arm and two little bands for 2 fingers. He got me all wired up.
I should hear from Peaches tomorrow whether or not I'm in-I shouldn't be over-confident, but I think I'm pretty well in. He seemed to be impressed with my musical qualifications-at least somebody is. Anyway I'll let you know tomorrow for sure.
Dad and I worked on the Cougar today. We changed the oil and greased it and other odds and ends. It runs great except for the brakes. I think I will have to replace them. It's long overdue anybody.
It looks like I am going to keep this car for awhile. With the divorce and everything Dad feels it would be best to wait until it's over or at least in order. We also just bought 2 cars and he thinks we should wait on a 3rd one especially if its going to be a major investment like 4,000 or more.
I understand and respect both arguments and will lay lack on looking for a van until later. It will give me an opportunity to save more money. Everybody says that we'll need it. I'm not worried, though. I'm too excited to be worried.
I talked to Mrs Hancox today and she said that the offer still stands for the room. She also said that it wouldn't cost you anything. She said you could pay her back by singing in her daughters wedding or something.
There are many other questions, pros and cons, I know. I haven't yet decided what should be best thought I want you with me so much. But sometimes we have to give up our wants if God asks us to. We've got to decide what He wants and stand by that whether it makes us happy or sad. We should be happy in any case knowing that we're to marry in a few months. (I like the word "few"-it sounds shorter).
Well, love there's more to say, but I must get to dreaming about you-
I love you so much
Scott
maranatha!
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Dec. 6, 1978
Dearest Tricia,
Today I found out why my family wanted me home. My father broke the news to Traci and I that he and mom are getting a divorce. I was a little shook up and still am. I suspected this coming about, but always hoped that they would work the problems out. They are not succeeding in that.
Dad said that mom would get the house in FTL. and he would live in New York on or near The Island. Please pray for them and Traci and I as times are going to be rough for while until this is all settled.
Dad is pretty shook up over the whole thing. He almost cried when he told Traci and I. I have never seen that from him before. I can only hope that during this God can draw him to Himself. I pray so. I pray God is working within this.
Please keep this within the family for present, Thanks.
On a happier note-mom said that she'd love to have you come down for 3 months and even live with us in my room. I will convert the back room to a bedroom. I haven't checked on the Hancox's room. I will let you know about that too-
I had a relatively productive day today-aside from getting up at 10:00. I looked for a job-transferred bank accounts-picked up some supplies-went to a movie with dad (Heaven Can Wait, for the 3rd time)-practiced-inked my piano piece for 3 voices (the short and pretty one)-labeled my music boxes-and squared away my Shaklee stuff. I decided to get the rest of my Christmas present from them. (Promotion!!!). I even bought you some hairspray. I'll send it up with your mother's items. By the way her stuff comes to $8.27 including tax. I'll send a bill with the stuff-
I've got more to say, but I'll wait until tomorrow-
Bye for now love
I love you "truly"
Scott
Today I found out why my family wanted me home. My father broke the news to Traci and I that he and mom are getting a divorce. I was a little shook up and still am. I suspected this coming about, but always hoped that they would work the problems out. They are not succeeding in that.
Dad said that mom would get the house in FTL. and he would live in New York on or near The Island. Please pray for them and Traci and I as times are going to be rough for while until this is all settled.
Dad is pretty shook up over the whole thing. He almost cried when he told Traci and I. I have never seen that from him before. I can only hope that during this God can draw him to Himself. I pray so. I pray God is working within this.
Please keep this within the family for present, Thanks.
On a happier note-mom said that she'd love to have you come down for 3 months and even live with us in my room. I will convert the back room to a bedroom. I haven't checked on the Hancox's room. I will let you know about that too-
I had a relatively productive day today-aside from getting up at 10:00. I looked for a job-transferred bank accounts-picked up some supplies-went to a movie with dad (Heaven Can Wait, for the 3rd time)-practiced-inked my piano piece for 3 voices (the short and pretty one)-labeled my music boxes-and squared away my Shaklee stuff. I decided to get the rest of my Christmas present from them. (Promotion!!!). I even bought you some hairspray. I'll send it up with your mother's items. By the way her stuff comes to $8.27 including tax. I'll send a bill with the stuff-
I've got more to say, but I'll wait until tomorrow-
Bye for now love
I love you "truly"
Scott
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Dec. 4th, 1978
Dear Tricia,
Well, here I am-and there you are-I'm already lonely! I sure am glad you called today, I really missed your voice. I wanted to call but I know that I shouldn't. Anyway-I'm glad (estatic) to hear the good news. It is a load off of both of our minds.
Right now I'm in the middle of cataloging the rest of my music. It's tedious but I think it's worth it. Even today I had to use the music file to find a Nocturne to play. It was quite helpful. With as much music as we both will have together, we could open a music store.
The Lord has caused me to be quite fruitful since I've been home. It helps to keep my mind occupied so I don't get down and depressed. I got my room clean. applied for a job, looked at vans, got my music straightened out, decided what to practice on piano and went to church and a concert all in 36 hours.
Tomorrow Dad and I are going fishing in the ocean with our boat. I'm excited because it will be the first time in years that we have done anything together alone. I pray that it goes well and that we draw closer together.
We sure had a great time together last week outside the group. I can't wait until we can have those times 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for the rest of our lives. I'm so excited about our future ahead. You better be also! Please don't be afraid of losing me or anything like that. I love you and am married to you for all practical purposed. We know how we stand before God and I am strong and happy in that.
I could write all night, but I will be writing again tomorrow when I can say more. I will make the attempt, God willing, to write everyday. I hope you do too. It's so important to keep in some kind of daily touch.
My devotion this morning had to do with patience (of all things). I took one aspect of patience and researched it fully. It was "patience in quarrels." I came up with 3 good references. I will share a little about my daily devotions with you and you with me. Ok?
the verses I came upon via Strongs Exhaustive Concordance were 2 Tim. 2:24,25; James 5:8-9; and I Tim. 3:3. The best version of the last verse was in Jerusalem bible. "...not a heavy drinker, not hot-tempered,but kind and peaceable. he must not be a lover of money." So goes my devotion--
I best sign off now, love. Take care and dream about me. I will dream about you-
I love you (forever)
Scott
maranatha!
Well, here I am-and there you are-I'm already lonely! I sure am glad you called today, I really missed your voice. I wanted to call but I know that I shouldn't. Anyway-I'm glad (estatic) to hear the good news. It is a load off of both of our minds.
Right now I'm in the middle of cataloging the rest of my music. It's tedious but I think it's worth it. Even today I had to use the music file to find a Nocturne to play. It was quite helpful. With as much music as we both will have together, we could open a music store.
The Lord has caused me to be quite fruitful since I've been home. It helps to keep my mind occupied so I don't get down and depressed. I got my room clean. applied for a job, looked at vans, got my music straightened out, decided what to practice on piano and went to church and a concert all in 36 hours.
Tomorrow Dad and I are going fishing in the ocean with our boat. I'm excited because it will be the first time in years that we have done anything together alone. I pray that it goes well and that we draw closer together.
We sure had a great time together last week outside the group. I can't wait until we can have those times 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for the rest of our lives. I'm so excited about our future ahead. You better be also! Please don't be afraid of losing me or anything like that. I love you and am married to you for all practical purposed. We know how we stand before God and I am strong and happy in that.
I could write all night, but I will be writing again tomorrow when I can say more. I will make the attempt, God willing, to write everyday. I hope you do too. It's so important to keep in some kind of daily touch.
My devotion this morning had to do with patience (of all things). I took one aspect of patience and researched it fully. It was "patience in quarrels." I came up with 3 good references. I will share a little about my daily devotions with you and you with me. Ok?
the verses I came upon via Strongs Exhaustive Concordance were 2 Tim. 2:24,25; James 5:8-9; and I Tim. 3:3. The best version of the last verse was in Jerusalem bible. "...not a heavy drinker, not hot-tempered,but kind and peaceable. he must not be a lover of money." So goes my devotion--
I best sign off now, love. Take care and dream about me. I will dream about you-
I love you (forever)
Scott
maranatha!
A new/old beginning
As many of you know, my beloved husband Scott of 32 years past away in March. It is by far the most difficult thing I have had to journey through, and that journey is far from over. If you knew anything about Scott and I, you knew that we loved each other more than life despite the many difficult years that we had together. When you find out at age 30 that the love of your life has brain tumors you really discover each day how "to live like you are dying". We NEVER gave up hope! Anyway for those of you that care to read, as part of my healing process I've decided to blog. I am not a writer by any means., but so many people seem to think that this works and I'm willing to try anything to help deal with the pain. Let me start by saying, I am not angry with God. God gave Scott to me for a short period and I wouldn't trade the love that we shared together in Christ for anything. I recently told some people at Griefshare that Scott's diagnosis 22 years ago was a gift. It was difficult to hear, but we learned how to appreciate every moment that we had and so many people don't get that chance.
I recently discovered a box of letters that Scott sent to me during our engagement when he was in Ft. Lauderdale, Fl. and I was in Durham, NC. I though it would be nice to start with them. The one thing that I noticed while re-reading all of these letters is that Scott stayed true to himself. He was very transparent and loved life and me unconditionally. A rare gift in today's society.
I recently discovered a box of letters that Scott sent to me during our engagement when he was in Ft. Lauderdale, Fl. and I was in Durham, NC. I though it would be nice to start with them. The one thing that I noticed while re-reading all of these letters is that Scott stayed true to himself. He was very transparent and loved life and me unconditionally. A rare gift in today's society.
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